You have had the same best friend since elementary school. You have seen each other literally go through everything. You have discussed what your wedding gown would be like back when you were 6. You have lost count of the number of sleepovers you’ve had. But lately, it seems like the two of you are drifting apart. I’ve been there too and just so there’s no confusion, let me give you 10 signs you are losing your best friend, so that you know for sure.
10. She moved away and didn’t leave you a number to call
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Your best friend has all of a sudden moved away and she didn’t even leave a number, address or e-mail that you could reach her at. Is this a hint or what? Perhaps your best friend believes that she wants to go somewhere else and start a new life like Blake Lively aka Serena Van der Woodson in the Gossip girl. It’s probably nothing you did, just remember that.
9. She doesn’t want to add you on Facebook or Myspace
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Social networking sites, such as Facebook and Myspace are becoming one of our favorite internet pass times and obviously you’d expect your best friend to be a part of it. You have sent her numerous invites and reminded her to add you, but she won’t. She keeps making up excuses and you see that she adds everyone else. Perhaps not adding you to those social networks as a friend should be a hint.
8. She ignores your calls
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Your so called best friend has all of a sudden stopped taking your calls or doesn’t take them as often as she used to. You leave numerous messages on her answering machine, but still, she does not return your call. What could this mean?
7. She no longer smiles
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Do you remember the good old days? When your best friend smiled instantly when you came into the room? When you created that silly handshake? When you giggled like little girls? When you made all those big plans to lose weight together before prom? Now, she doesn’t even smile, let alone do the friendship handshake the two of you invented in school.
6. She is always busy
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Gone are the days when you two wore your best dresses and high heeled shoes and painted the town red. Now, when you try to schedule a girls night out with her, it seems that she is always busy and coming up with excuses not to hang out with you. C’mon! noone can be so busy that you can’t spare one night in a month to spend with your so called best friend. She’s probably just not interested anymore.
5. She has a new group of friends
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I guess she’s the type that believes in with the new and out with the old, because if she has a new group of friends and has a new “best friend,” then chances are she no longer wants to be with you.
4. She doesn’t respond to you on messenger
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In the old days, she would spend hours talking to you on messenger and more importantly respond right away. Now, when you see her online, you message her and she does not write you back or even if she does, it seems like all she’s doing is typing one word answers.
3. When you talk, it’s awkward
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When you talk to her on the phone, you do not feel like you are talking to someone you know. You feel that you are talking to someone that does not want to be spoken to. Infact, it’s almost as bad as an awkward first date. And even if you try, you can’t seem to get her to converse.
2. She avoids you
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When she sees you in public, she goes out of her way to avoid you. This is not okay, unless the two of you have been fighting lately. Maybe it’s something you did unconsciously. Have the two of you been fighting over the same guy? Have you said something mean? Have you not had the time to spend with her? If none of these reasons make sense, she’s probably hinting that she doesn’t want to talk to you anymore.
1. You make eye contact, but she says nothing to you in public
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In public, you make eye contact with each other, but she acts as if she does not even know you. She does not even say hi to you. Yes, this is a harsh one, but it is definitely the number one sign to watch out for.
I know that it can hurt to see your best friend who you knew for so long trying to avoid you. I guess it goes without saying that there is always room for change and you should try to move on with your life, because it is obvious that she has moved on with her life too. You still have the memories, pictures and scrapbooks of the two of you. And you know what, it happens! People change and people drift. Ah, friendship, it was good while it lasted… what is your saddest moment of losing a best friend? How did you get over it?
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